Is eharmony Worth Trying In 2024? A Full Review Of The Classic Dating App

The dating site eharmony was launched nearly 20 years ago, and at one point felt like the poster child of online dating. (Does anyone else remember those commercials?)

At the core of eharmony's methodology are the meticulous details that set the stage for meaningful connections and long-term relationships, with a heavy emphasis on the fine details—as in, "lengthy questionnaires" and extensive profiles that take up to 25 minutes to fill out.

In many ways, eharmony stands as the antithesis of Tinder. Some may find this tedious, while others think eharmony is worth the time and effort to meet someone a partner with potential, especially when you consider the benefits of relationships1 to your overall well-being!

Clinical psychologist Neil Clark Warren, Ph.D., started eharmony in 2003, right before a certain Harvard dropout created Facebook and social media became a thing. It quickly became a popular way for people to make romantic connections based on the site's "Compatibility Matching System," where users take a long quiz and can see how their results align with others.

The site really tries to stand out against Tinder, emphasizing that it's truly designed for serious relationships and claiming over 2 million people "have found love."

In an email, a spokesperson for eharmony told me that over half of all its users are Gen Z or millennials (contrary to what some may assume about this classic dating site), and that 2.3 million messages are sent weekly. It says the platform's demographic is 51% men and 49% women.

In my research, it seems like many people turn to eharmony when they're serious about finding a relationship and are willing to invest the time—given that you can only sign up for months at a time for the premium memberships.

It feels like the place to go when you feel tired of the so-called endless options on other apps like Tinder or Hinge and don't want to waste your time.

The site urges you (and sometimes makes you) fill out a very detailed profile, which encourages a level of depth not always found on the simpler swiping apps (though, not everyone actually does this).

Make sure you have some free time when you start up your eharmony profile because it'll take a while. First-time users have to take the compatibility quiz, which consists of 80 questions and covers topics like your personality type, communication style, and much more.

Questions include things like "Is it important that your belongings are organized properly?" and looking at two images and picking which one you liked better. (Yes, it felt like a Rorschach Inkblot Test.)

After taking the compatibility quiz, you can build out your profile, which took me at least 20 minutes. You can click from a long list of icons that represent your lifestyle and include interests and hobbies (e.g., art, listening to music, etc.), sports, travel preferences, and more.

There are also a bunch of questions and prompts you can write an answer to, like "If I need advice, I'm calling…"

Like other dating services, the app also prompts you to upload photos. And don't think you can skip over this detailed process: In the free version, you have to fill out enough of your profile to even message or see other users. 

The website is pretty simple to navigate after that, and you can search for people to match—who are in the preferences you choose. When you visit someone's profile, you get a compatibility score, which represents how your compatibility quiz results align.

It was definitely interesting to scan through and see if they're as empathetic as I am, if they're more emotional or logical, or if they are adventurous.

I could see how knowing some of those aspects would make me more or less interested in someone. And if you pay, you can also see people whose profiles you visited and vice versa. 

It's important to note: There's a huge difference between the free and paid versions once you get to the stage of seeing other profiles. To actually see your match's photos and send messages, you have to pay for a premium membership.

The cost of eharmony seems to vary between users, likely based on location, where you are in the sign-up process, and other factors. You can expect to pay somewhere in the range of $12 to $60 per month.

"I'll note, there's a big difference between the paid version of eHarmony and the free version," Lauryn Jiles writes. "You must have a premium membership to see people's photos and full profiles and to send messages."

You can only purchase eharmony subscriptions in monthly bundles of 6 months, 12 months, or 24 months. The longer you commit to the dating service, the cheaper per month it is.

As of this writing, the six-month Premium Light membership costs $24/month (this appears to be a sale price; it says it costs $60/month regularly). That comes out to $144 total for the six months, which is the shortest and cheapest overall option.

To end your eharmony membership, you can either cancel your auto-renewal under "Data & settings" or reach out to their Customer Care team. Just uninstalling the app doesn't mean your membership is canceled. 

eharmony can be worth it if you're willing to financially invest in finding a serious relationship and if other dating app formats are just not working for you.

I was intrigued by the compatibility scores and have never seen that on a dating site. (Editor's Note: Both OkCupid and Match offer similar compatibility information.)

If you want to know more about other users before initiating a conversation with them, then you'll probably like this format.

That said, the cost will not be worth it for many people. If you think about it, even the smallest bundle will end up costing you at least $144 ($360 regularly), and that might be too hefty a price tag for most daters, myself included.

We've tried a lot of dating sites, and eharmony is one of our top picks for people who want a serious relationship. In fact, the company claims to be responsible for 4% of marriages in the U.S., according to couples' therapist Kyle Zrenchik, Ph.D., LMFT, ACS. 

We attribute this to the comprehensive sign-up process, which is bound to weed out people who are not looking for something serious.

Our 64-year-old tester for our guide to the best senior dating sites, Diana King, gave high praise to the dating app. She's used dating apps (or websites) for more than 15 years, and considers eHarmony to be one of the most reliable options.

Our team has interviewed countless experts on how to be more successful in dating. Find some of our favorite advice below:

Date with intention: You’ll never find what you want if you don’t know what you’re looking for. Before diving headfirst into online dating, take a moment to consider your intentions. Do you want a serious relationship? If so, you’re in the right place with eharmony.

Keep your intentions top of mind as you begin setting up your profile and evaluating potential matches. This help avoid matching with people who might not align with your dating goals and open up the door for those who will. 

Spend time on your profile: Your profile is a representation of you, so make sure to put some thought into it. Take time to build a profile that represents who you are, with clear photos and thoughtful responses to prompts. Share the things that make you you, and give clear openings for people to start a conversation.

Keep an open mind: Sure, you need to know what you want—but you should also be open to the idea that what you want might not look exactly how you expect it to. 

Get out on a date: Dating apps are a great way to vet people before going out in real life. That said, don’t spend weeks chatting before ever meeting in person. Plan a date sooner rather than later, so you can start building that face-to-face connection.

Those who are serious about finding a long-term relationship and feel like things are just too casual on Tinder or Bumble may want to consider eharmony—but you'll be paying a price and committing for a long time.

A free membership on this site is basically pointless, so if you do upgrade, at least you know those who you match with are also invested in finding a potential partner.

What sets eharmony apart from apps like Plenty of Fish and Match (we've got a full Match review too, by the way) is the compatibility factor, which takes some of the guesswork and labor out of matching and speaking to lots of people. It was interesting to see how certain qualities match or mismatch with others.